Originally Posted by Taltos

C'mon. You're already having doubts about the relationship and you're not even with the girl yet. That's not good. It's certainly not perfect, but maybe perfect isn't what you're looking for. I can understand that.

What I cannot understand -- what does not seem moral by any means -- is you trying to get with this girl by threatening her. And it is a pretty nasty threat -- exposing your activities together for the sole purpose of ruining her relationship if she chooses that relationship over you. That's just messed up. You have to seriously think about this, because it's going to have repercussions in you, in how you treat people. Is this really the kind of person you want to be?

I get that you're frustrated... that you feel like a need to lash out or something if you can't have the girl. There isn't a man alive who hasn't felt that at some point. But who you are, and who you want to be, is more important that anything -- more important than who you happen to be with or what you happen to have. If you don't get that now, you will later. Unless you cross the line.

You can't threaten someone into loving you. You can't even threaten someone into liking you. You can't do that and still pretend to have any morals. You could be ruining this girl's life and possibilities for happiness, and for what? To get into a relationship that was poisoned before it even began?