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Originally Posted by Bearface
I take it you clench them? Does it really help speed up the onset of orgasm? I only ask cos my partner is having trouble reaching the big "O".
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Well, everyone's different, but it certainly speeds up *my* orgasms. Has your partner ever had an orgasm? Does she masturbate? Sometimes it just takes time to figure out what makes yourself tick.
For me, the ideal position is on my back, legs spread, no pillows under my head... and 1-2 feet between my head and the headboard, so I have room to "pull" myself up while he's going down on me. I don't actually pull my whole body up, since mostly I am just trying to create tension in the abs by pulling on the frame behind me (and the weight of my body creates enough traction that I don't really move very far)... but it's inevitable that I do end up scootching up a bit at a time, so my husband has to "follow" me (this is over 15-20 minutes of time, btw). It's basically like doing a pull-up, but horizontally. It's also important that he has at least two fingers inside me, occasionally a finger in my ass, and that his tongue never leaves my clit.
Hope this helps!