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If you wear a low-cut shirt it's not always an invitation to stare, maybe we just like the shirt because it looks flattering on us.
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While you, as far as I'm concerned, somewhat sidestepped this issue in your second post, it seems blatantly contradictory to me. If you wear a low cut shirt that "look flattering", about 90% of the flattering is likely your cleavage. While I argue firmly against the sick fucks who think that dressing provocatively is an invitation to sex or rape, I do have to say that something as seemingly harmless as a boob-stare is to be expected, at least, if you wear a low-cut top that "look flattering" on you. I mean, what's the point of looking good if people don't notice?
I believe, of course, in being a better man than that. Women are not objects. At the same time, my female friends, and I have a few of them, will often make "objectifying" comments about a guys ass in tight jeans, his biceps in a cutoff or short-sleeved shirt or any other such. It irks me heavily that women, even those who would make such comments, could ever be offended by a guy staring at her breasts. To guys, those are like muscles are to girls (or whatever else you might individually like). *grumble*
Sorry to rant, it's just annoying, doubly so coupled with the "poor me, I'm a woman and treated like a second-class citizen" spiel. I really don't mean any offense, specifically to ghoastgirl or mixedmedia, but a lot of gender-based issues are such crap (from both sides of the fence). Frankly, I feel until both men and women in general can admit to their own bullshit facade, questions like this will often be raised in all seriousness.
You're a woman and you don't like your boobs stared at? Don't wear that shirt! Or, perhaps it's karma... don't stare at that guys crotch or ass or bulging muscles. You don't? Well, guess what, a large number of guys don't objectify you that way either. And a lot of your fellow women DO objectify men that way.
I won't gawk at someone in a lewd fashion, but if you wear a low-cut shirt that exemplifies your cleavage, you can fully expect that I'll do more than glance in passing. That is, after all, the purpose of such a shirt...