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Shoowop · 07-02-2007, 04:14 AM

My story is funny. Well now it is. On May 26th my now ex-boyfriend decided that "he loves my company and wants to spend time with me, but thought it would be best if he didn't see me. Or rather, see if he missed me." Largely due to the fact that he had E.D. issues because of his meds, so sex or lack there of, was an issue. And he thought he was ready for a relationship, but isn't and is a mess and even his therapist stopped returning his calls. And "people are attracted to people with responsibilities, jobs, cars, etc" (I'm out of work currently (but now so is he, oh the irony) and was in a terrible car accident so car-less)
But to get back to my point, you know what I did? After I got out of his SUV I went to bed, smothered my face into my pillow and cried a good cry. Then it stopped. Abruptly after about 3 minutes. The next day I spent the next couple days at my best girlfriend's house watching movies, talking and going on like it never happened. After a few days I went home and started thinking about the situation, so I started playing poker online. Seriously! It completely distracted me from sulking and feeling sorry for myself.
And much to my surprise after three weeks "he" emailed me asking me if I wanted to "hang out tonight or any night to call me, and is your number the same" (I had moved post-breakup.) After 3 and a half weeks I decided to start hanging out with him again and much to my surprise the feelings I thought I felt so strongly about him were not re-ignited. Him on the other hand, is doing everything I wanted him to do in the first place, but I realised I am better off without him romantically and I do not need a fairweather boyfriend. But I'll make him eat his heart out in the meantime being his pal.
He sounds like a real winner right? I don't know what the attraction was in the first place. Well, he's originally from Scotland and those bloody accents get me everytime!

Life lesson learned.

07-02-2007, 04:14 AM	#21 (permalink)
Shoowop Upright Location: My roots are in Michigan, but my heart is across the pond.	My story is funny. Well now it is. On May 26th my now ex-boyfriend decided that "he loves my company and wants to spend time with me, but thought it would be best if he didn't see me. Or rather, see if he missed me." Largely due to the fact that he had E.D. issues because of his meds, so sex or lack there of, was an issue. And he thought he was ready for a relationship, but isn't and is a mess and even his therapist stopped returning his calls. And "people are attracted to people with responsibilities, jobs, cars, etc" (I'm out of work currently (but now so is he, oh the irony) and was in a terrible car accident so car-less) But to get back to my point, you know what I did? After I got out of his SUV I went to bed, smothered my face into my pillow and cried a good cry. Then it stopped. Abruptly after about 3 minutes. The next day I spent the next couple days at my best girlfriend's house watching movies, talking and going on like it never happened. After a few days I went home and started thinking about the situation, so I started playing poker online. Seriously! It completely distracted me from sulking and feeling sorry for myself. And much to my surprise after three weeks "he" emailed me asking me if I wanted to "hang out tonight or any night to call me, and is your number the same" (I had moved post-breakup.) After 3 and a half weeks I decided to start hanging out with him again and much to my surprise the feelings I thought I felt so strongly about him were not re-ignited. Him on the other hand, is doing everything I wanted him to do in the first place, but I realised I am better off without him romantically and I do not need a fairweather boyfriend. But I'll make him eat his heart out in the meantime being his pal. He sounds like a real winner right? I don't know what the attraction was in the first place. Well, he's originally from Scotland and those bloody accents get me everytime! Life lesson learned. __________________ "They say it is better to be poor and happy than rich and miserable, but how about a compromise like moderately rich and just moody?" Last edited by Shoowop; 07-02-2007 at 05:10 AM.. Reason: Automerged Doublepost