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Push-Pull · 06-24-2007, 05:37 PM

Is this a constant thing?

If it happens all the time, without reciprocation OF ANY KIND then yes, that's being taken advantage of.

If not, then well, you just upped your bonus points a bit. It's up to you to cash those points in.....

The thing to remember is that there are a LOT of things that she may do that you don't realize and in her mind, she may consider herself as "reciprocating".

As an example, my wife and I used to argue about housework a LOT. Then, her back got so bad and couldn't work and now stays home. She realizes that I work, and that her "share" is to do the daily stuff as much as she can. I try to help when I can by doing a load of my own laundry (she won't let me touch hers), emptying the dishwasher, or making dinner. Point is, it took a while to find that balance, but it did level out and we both feel that each other is contributing.

06-24-2007, 05:37 PM	#5 (permalink)
Push-Pull I'll ask when I'm ready.... Location: Firmly in the middle....	Is this a constant thing? If it happens all the time, without reciprocation OF ANY KIND then yes, that's being taken advantage of. If not, then well, you just upped your bonus points a bit. It's up to you to cash those points in..... The thing to remember is that there are a LOT of things that she may do that you don't realize and in her mind, she may consider herself as "reciprocating". As an example, my wife and I used to argue about housework a LOT. Then, her back got so bad and couldn't work and now stays home. She realizes that I work, and that her "share" is to do the daily stuff as much as she can. I try to help when I can by doing a load of my own laundry (she won't let me touch hers), emptying the dishwasher, or making dinner. Point is, it took a while to find that balance, but it did level out and we both feel that each other is contributing. __________________ "No laws, no matter how rigidly enforced, can protect a person from their own stupidity." -Me- "Some people are like Slinkies..... They are not really good for anything, but they still bring a smile to your face when you push them down a flight of stairs." -Unknown- DAMMIT! -Jack Bauer- Last edited by Push-Pull; 06-24-2007 at 05:43 PM..