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Originally Posted by shakran
Plus, let's recall exactly what happened here. SHE agreed to his condition to get back together. She didn't have to do that. She could have refused his condition, and then she could visit (and have sex with) whoever she wanted. Even now, she still has the option of breaking it off with him if she decides that she doesn't like the condition she agreed to.
But she hasn't done any of that. Instead she was planning to go to this party where her ex-illicit-lover was going to be, and she chose to hide that from Shoe. Now, which of them is being immature?
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Yes, she did agree to get back together... but we don't yet know under what terms. There is a huge difference if she got back together out of convenience (say if 'fucker' got tired of her and moved on... then she goes and tries to win back shoe) or out of commitment (if after she lost shoe, she realized she really wanted him... and broke it off with 'fucker'). Much different scenarios, and each would shed a different light on the current situation.
From what shoe has told us, it sounds like she still has the "convenience mentality"... which is the less mature perspective to view relationships. However, two wrongs do not make a right. So while I wouldn't go as far as to call shoe's restrictions "extremely immature"... I don't believe they will get him the results he's looking for.
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shani, I obviously agree that the restrictions aren't a viable long-term solution... but I think you need to keep things in perspective. First of all, she full-out cheated on him. And also, you have to remember that it seems she was not as upfront about 'fucker' being at the party as she should have been. He felt betrayed by her (again), and I think he has a right to feel angry. Besides, I don't think he is trying to dictate her entire social life... he even said, "I know i dont have a right to control her but, fuck, we had both agreed that she was not to see him again." I think you are blowing things out of proportion just a bit.