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Originally Posted by abaya
True, not everyone goes into it thinking it won't work, and yet it still might not pan out. But do you think it was the distance that killed it, or was it something else? I mean, considering that many relationships fail even when two people live very close together, I would think that distance is just one of many strains that can happen to a relationship.
I don't believe in anyone being "meant" for anyone else (e.g. soulmates and other predestined-type crap), but I do think people need to be at the right time and place in their individual lives for things to work out as a couple. You could meet a very compatible partner "too early" in life, and eventually things just aren't gonna work out (distance or whatever else). But if you had met the same person a few years later, at the right time, then maybe nothing could have split you up, even years of long distance. That's where sheer timing & coincidence plays a part in situations like this, I think.
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Distance is just a factor like anything else. Distance doesn't allow for natural things to take their due course, such as being extra nice, forgiving, because the weekend you have together is the only time you have together and why spoil it? Especially in the beginning of the relationship.
I think in some cases though distance can mask and hide other problems. This was not the case for me, since when we got the opportunity to live together we did. I don't recall the timing of it when we broke up etc.
agreed on the timing, I had met the right person when I was ready.
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