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Originally Posted by ratbastid
In our state, you can't even file for divorce until you've been separated "living as if single" for one calendar year.
I know because I'm living with a girl who's in her fifth month of separation.
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(And lurkette... yay!)
Oh, honey. I hate this for you. Unfortunately, I feel like if you're done, you're done. We had this discussion during Tea and Strumpets night here-- our friend is separated, our Mary Kay rep was divorced once, I'm in month five of a very very long twelve-- and the point was made that when women are done, we're really and truly done. We've agonized over the decision and finally accepted the idea that something we've put our hearts and lives into is just plain over.
Keep going to counseling. It's not a bad thing. Sit down with him and sort out your finances, and try to make sure neither of you will get screwed. I wouldn't recommend "dating" each other, but that's your call. Personally, I'm still trying to be friends with my soon-to-be ex, and sometimes it's just too hard. Not because I miss him, but because I'm so happy now that I can't remember what I saw there in the first place.
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Originally posted by Sultana:
I will help, but I'm not doing it for him.
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Good girl. I had that same problem, still sometimes do. It's tough to let that one go.