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Seaver has some excellent points here. While I frown on the idea of a person breaking up with someone just because of genetic deficiencies, you might say that variations on that theme happen on a regular basis.

I think there are ethical ways to actually *break up* with someone (e.g. do it in person, not via e-mail or texting), but I don't know how much one can apply "ethics," per se, to *reasons* for breaking up. If you don't see yourself being happy with a person for the long-term, whether for genetic reasons (including their appearance or physical abilities) or personality (which could also be said to be partially determined by genetics), then isn't it really *more* ethical to break it off sooner, instead of carrying on with a charade of being altruistic and all-loving while being miserable inside?

We are all "shallow" creatures in some ways... even though we're supposed to be the highest form of animal life, we're still animals. Animals choose their mates based on genetic criteria (as manifested through physical appearance or performance). I'm not saying it's right, but it's a biological fact, and sometimes it's better to be honest about our preferences instead of pretending they don't exist.

Consider yourself lucky that it happened now instead of 20 years down the road...

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