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Let's call her Jane. Jane and I have been friends for a few years. I'm married, so it's strictly a friend relationship. Jane's a single mother, raising a 7 year old boy.
Over the years, Jane has become dependant on me. She's not very mechanically inclined, so she often calls on me to fix her mower, unclog a drain, hang shelves, etc. Whenever she calls on me, she knows that I'm there. I've come over in the middle of the night to watch her son when she had an emergency, meet her on the roadside to fix a flat, etc. I was raised by a single mom, so I know that it's tough for her. Plus, I think I like being depended on.

Here's the problem. She can't be depended on. It's mainly the small stuff. I know she'd be there for me in an emergency. However, it's the small stuff that gets to me. She tells me she'll call me, and she doesn't call. She says "Let's get together on Monday", but when Monday rolls around she's got doctor's appts, hair appts, work... She seems to want a relationship when it's convienient for her.

I want to confront her about it, but what do I say? I don't want to sound selfish. Do I open up and tell her how much she means to me and how much it hurts when she does this? I can't just walk away...we tried that once for about a year, and I thought about her constantly. I recently had a death in my family and she called, reconnecting our relationship. I want to have her in my life, but it hurts me to think that she doesn't make me as much as a priority as I make for her.

Thanx for reading this far...maybe it'll help just for me to get all this off my chest. I appreciate all the support TFP'ers have given others, and I thank you all in advance...