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In my more youthful days I was also a victim of the big bad dad. Bald, beard, about 350 with maybe 10% body fat, wearing a wife beater. I'm sure his intention was to put the fear of god in me. I stood toe to toe with him and answered every threatening question with a ballsy answer. I could have put myself in a fight I might have lost, but I got lucky and earned his respect. I was always a perfect gentleman with his daughter until the day we broke up. I'm still in contact with him.
I had no clue why he was doing what he was doing at the time. I just assumed he liked to play with people, throw his weight around. Looking back, he was worried about little jerks being anywhere near his little girl. I can't blame him a bit. Was he overprotective? Maybe, but from his perspective he had the best and most honorable intentions. I'll bet there were a dozen guys before me that were scared off, and they might have been scared off because they didn't have honorable intentions with his daughter. That's really the bottom line. Sure, some of the less experienced kids could have gotten scared off, too, but I suppose that's something that leads to more experience.
Someday when I start getting knocks at my door, I probably won't show up with a beater on (or a knife....jeez), but I will be very assertive in making clear that they are going to be responsible with someone who is precious to me. I feel for Brew, and I hope for nothing but the best, espically after what his daughter went through.
All the best, brew.
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