calibrich

Ive just started talking to this new girl and she always brings up about how her life was rough. She wont exactly open up to me completely yet because we've only talked for about 2 weeks, but each time Im around she lets a little more out. She is hesitant to tell me because when she told her fiance last year, his response was "get over it. Its the past". Well that pretty much put her off on telling anyone anything ever again.

With the little I have heard from her so far though, Im pretty sure its alcoholism and some sort of abuse from a family member. Im thinking the father because I havent met her parents yet, but she told me she didnt want me to think different of anyone in her family.

Ive never really dealt with alcoholism so I cant really relate to her and what she went through. My dad did drink, but it never turned violent or any mental abuse or anything. So I want to be there for her, but not really sure what to say. At some point I just asked about counseling, like if she ever considered it, and she kinda flipped on me like I was saying she needed it or wasnt strong enough to fix it on her own. But it was just a simple question. Hell Im mostly normal and could use counseling. Most people could to me. At least to talk. So I just want to watch my words more and not say the wrong things, but show that I do care and want her to open up to me.

Any advice?