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Originally Posted by analog
Lots of people think there's a "right" or "safe" way to do it, that won't "cause harm". Truth is, you chance death each and every time you do it.
If I die because of an orgasm, it'll be when i'm old and go naturally, not because of something as stupid as this practice.
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hmmmm... well, actually there is a "right" way to do this. If that wasn't true, myself or Topper would have been dead years ago when we started enjoying it from time to time in our sexual pleasure
We only use hands, the one time we tried an actual prop, we spent so much time focusing on being careful that we weren't able to enjoy ourselves and it killed the mood.
IF you are interested in adding this to your sex life:
Always important to have a "safe action" aka, same as a safe word. For instance the partner who is having their breath restricted will put their hand up when they've had enough. Without a safe action, without knowing your partner extremely well and having an immense amount of trust, this is Not something I would recommend.
Some people find this kind of play sinister I think. But for us, it's not, we find it erotic and if we're in the mood, it can really add to our connection.
However, I will say... I think, for some individuals out there, there is a sinister drive behind it, I read of one couple where the male partner would do it until his gf passed out... That is completely inappropriate and not at all in the confines of this erotic play, it is meant as heightening connection, not forcing your will onto your partner.
If I were casually dating someone, would I engage in this kind of play? absolutely not. However, having known Topper for 11 years and been married for almost 5, I trust him implicitly, as he does me.
Trust and attention to safety are the two main things I would focus on if you're pondering using this in your sex life.
That being said... if done properly... the orgasm you get from it will blow your fucking mind......
seriously, it is amazing. Topper has had similar results with it
aka... don't knock it until you try it analog
sweetpea