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Dan1006 · 02-14-2007, 10:11 AM

Hey,

I'm having some serious problems dealing with my girlfriends ex boyfriend at the moment, its probably best to start with some background information, so here goes.

I moved to Uni in September 2006, into a house with 5 other people, one of these people would become my current girlfriend. In the next two weeks Lilly's (My girlfriend) Ex boyfriend (Who also goes to Uni at the same place as us) would call her, came round about 4 times, on two of those occasions they slept together. At this point they had been split up from a 10 month relationship for about a month.

After 2 weeks of living in the house and seriously getting to know the girl, we were up in my room and well it basically just happened, we had sex that night.
The next morning we were basically going out with each other ( I know it happened very very quickly!).

A month went by and it was going really really well, then the EX BF popped up again.....

He would call her and text her, leave her messages on facebook wanting to get back together with her. I started feeling really really paranoid and unconfortable, especially when he wanted to go for a drink with her, she was going to say yes unless i told her how i felt about the whole thing.

In January this year we decided to stop going out with each other and to just be friends. I found this really hard because we both live together and basically see each other 24/7. So i went back to her twice asking to give it another go, she turned me down on both those occasions, because she said she wanted "More time".
After that i decided to just try and forget her and get on with uni life, but one thing that did puzzle me was that in the 'break' she wanted, she made her EX boyfriend a collage of their time together when they went to the Zoo once. I asked her why she did it and if she did it because she still had feelings for him but she said because she had promised that she would once when they were still going out.....

A week later she came back to me wanting to get back with me. To be honest i was shocked that a week was enough time to sort herself out so I agreed that we could try again, as long as she would sort the EX Boyfriend issue out.

Two nights ago we were out at a club and she bumped into him and they chatted for about 20 minutes. I felt so uncomfortable that yesturday I confronted her about it and basically said "Why cant you just not reply to his texts or messages on facebook for a while until he gets bored or gets the idea into his thick skull that you dont want to be with him?"

her response was

"I cant just cut someone out of my life like that!" and ran out of my room.

Im so confused about this whole thing!, i mean, does she still have feelings for him? because it sounds like she does but she says she does'nt!"

Any suggestions on what to do next would be so so helpfull!.

02-14-2007, 10:11 AM	#1 (permalink)
Dan1006 Upright	Dealing with girlfriends EX BF! Hey, I'm having some serious problems dealing with my girlfriends ex boyfriend at the moment, its probably best to start with some background information, so here goes. I moved to Uni in September 2006, into a house with 5 other people, one of these people would become my current girlfriend. In the next two weeks Lilly's (My girlfriend) Ex boyfriend (Who also goes to Uni at the same place as us) would call her, came round about 4 times, on two of those occasions they slept together. At this point they had been split up from a 10 month relationship for about a month. After 2 weeks of living in the house and seriously getting to know the girl, we were up in my room and well it basically just happened, we had sex that night. The next morning we were basically going out with each other ( I know it happened very very quickly!). A month went by and it was going really really well, then the EX BF popped up again..... He would call her and text her, leave her messages on facebook wanting to get back together with her. I started feeling really really paranoid and unconfortable, especially when he wanted to go for a drink with her, she was going to say yes unless i told her how i felt about the whole thing. In January this year we decided to stop going out with each other and to just be friends. I found this really hard because we both live together and basically see each other 24/7. So i went back to her twice asking to give it another go, she turned me down on both those occasions, because she said she wanted "More time". After that i decided to just try and forget her and get on with uni life, but one thing that did puzzle me was that in the 'break' she wanted, she made her EX boyfriend a collage of their time together when they went to the Zoo once. I asked her why she did it and if she did it because she still had feelings for him but she said because she had promised that she would once when they were still going out..... A week later she came back to me wanting to get back with me. To be honest i was shocked that a week was enough time to sort herself out so I agreed that we could try again, as long as she would sort the EX Boyfriend issue out. Two nights ago we were out at a club and she bumped into him and they chatted for about 20 minutes. I felt so uncomfortable that yesturday I confronted her about it and basically said "Why cant you just not reply to his texts or messages on facebook for a while until he gets bored or gets the idea into his thick skull that you dont want to be with him?" her response was "I cant just cut someone out of my life like that!" and ran out of my room. Im so confused about this whole thing!, i mean, does she still have feelings for him? because it sounds like she does but she says she does'nt!" Any suggestions on what to do next would be so so helpfull!.