I am at the end of a short list of places to call to find out if my father has died, if so where are his remain and what happened to his property. My mother contacted me last night and told me that she was contacted by the Social Security Admin, they told her she was eligible for survivor benefits. I am assuming that means my father is dead. I called his last known number, it was disconnected. I called the only friend/emergency contact I knew of that he had... her number is dosconnected. I called the police, they directed me to the medical examiner. The ME told me they have no recent record of his death and referred me to the Dept of Health. The only thing I could do there is request a death certificate, they couldn't even confirm if one existed. It will be 2-4 weeks before I find out. I did an obit search that included 350 papers nationwide, nothing. Goggle search came up with his address. I even googled addresses in his neighborhood, no one knew who he was (he was a recluse.) I did manage to get the phone number of his landlord, but no one answered... I am going to try tomorrow. I finally called the Social Security Admin to find out if they at least have a date of his death... I was told they have no record of him being deceased. The person i spoke to said if my mom had been contacted my dad should be in the system. It is not impossible that my mother lied, she has a history of rewriting the past to suit her needs. I guess she never fails to amaze me. I spent the last 12 hrs making calls and doing internet searches and crying. I haven't spoken to my dad in 10 yrs (his choice) I care about him and want to know what happened. I cannot believe there is no way of finding out the circumstances of a death and location of that persons remains and property are. His last known address was in Richmond Va, if anyone has any suggestions for me please share.
