abaya

It's not your job to make him feel like a sexual dynamo. If he chooses to feel like a failure, even when you've told him (I assume?) that you are happy with occasional oral and masturbatory orgasms... then that is his insecurity to deal with, not yours.

For the record, I pretty much cum only occasionally, and pretty much only through oral and masturbation. I don't fake it the rest of the time because my husband knows how I feel, and he doesn't feel like a failure. Neither of us focuses on my orgasms, and that's okay for us. Faking it, though, creates a whole other sort of insecurity and issues to resolve in a relationship... I think that's what we are all reacting to, here.

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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
--Khalil Gibran