You do not sound inorgasmic... it is quite normal for women to not come through intercourse alone. The length of time it took you to orgasm during oral is also not abnormal. You sound sexually healthy, your relationships, however, appear to be wanting. Hagatha is quite correct when she states being hurried or being with a sexual oaf can be a problem.
Think of your new relationship as a new sexual beginning.
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