Xera

I have this problem too. Is your GF on hormonal birth control (particularly teh depo shot) or anti depresants? both will KILL a libido.

Also (this from the therapist I saw when I stopped wanting to have sex at all for no reason that I could find) sex causes chemical reactions in the brain. Your body likes those reactions, but if you don't have sex (or at least an orgasm) every so often your body doesn't get primed for it. In other words, in order to want to have sex you must have orgasms every so often. The longer you go without an orgasm, the longer you can go without wanting sex. In order for me to start back to treating my hubby the way I knew he deserved to be treated I had to kind of 'make' myself have sex every day for a couple of weeks, and it DID work, I did begin to want sex again after that, but the first couple of weeks were hard on me, because I couldn't let him know I was just forcing myself or he wouldn't have participated and it wouldn't have happened.

I'm assuming here that you've tried to romance her? run her a nice bubble bath, soft soothing music, candles, you cook for her and take care of the clean up, massage, that kind of thing?

You said this had all changed in the past year and a half, has anything else changed in that time? has she started a new job? gained weight? lost a significant amount of weight? had a close friend or family member die or move away? any major change like that?

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