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Well, that is a handy tautology, but it's still pretty disturbing in the context of what you said earlier. Maybe you're just not realizing the implications of what you're saying.

Sure it's okay to lean on another person, but why should you expect everyone around you who happens to be male to treat you a certain way just because you are female? While I'm on the subject of the above statement, how was it that you just found out that something is okay for you? Why is it that you didn't always determine that for yourself?

This is the real crime that has been perpetrated against women, and it wasn't just the men who did it. Today, the men barely even participate in it. I didn't wait for somebody to tell me it was "okay" to take care of myself. I'm not going to wait for somebody to tell me that it's "okay" to depend a little on my SO if that is what we decide is best for us each. I'm not ungrateful either - I know when I am receiving help and I express my thanks. But I also know that when I receive it from my current SO, he does it because he wants to help me. He extends me little courtesies because he has manners. He goes out of his way for me out of love and not some twisted sense of stewardship implying that I am incapable of doing things myself.

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