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Ustwo · 10-16-2006, 11:04 PM

I have a gay friend who's partner is one of those obviously gay males that fits about every stereotype in the book.

Last election I get a distraught IM from my friend. It seems they never talked politics and my friend assumed that his partner shared his political viewpoints. Well it turned out his partner was a Republican, and always had been. Now my friend knew I voted republican and that was fine with him, we had some interesting debates and being he was intellectually honest in his viewpoints it was nice having discussions where we could look at issues and not debate facts and twist meanings like is so common as of late, and we had some great debates. He could be my friend even though we had different political view points but he was just shocked about his partner. Now my friend worked for a few democrat senators in D.C., and his partner knew his politics, so there wasn't a shock in that direction. When my friend asked his partner why he never told him, his partner said it was because he didn't want to upset him and it really wasn't something he felt was that important to their relationship in the long run, nothing done on the national/international scale was likely to really effect their relationship together.

I think the message is that you can have overriding reasons for the choices you make, even if it seems to go against your self interest. I am always amused every election when people say 'you need to vote for this party because they will give you more money' (thats not quite what they say, but its what it boils down to) not realizing that once everyone votes only with their wallet and not by what they think is best for the country, we are finished.

So maybe you are a homosexual and sure you wish the republicans were more 'gay friendly' on things like gay marriage, but if to you this seems like a small and unimportant issue beyond national security or whatever, why stand up for what you see as less important if it means sacrificing what you see as more important?

Now for those interested their relationship survived, but I haven't talked with him in about a year and a half, shame because I'm not sure how to get in touch with him now.

10-16-2006, 11:04 PM	#10 (permalink)
Ustwo Pissing in the cornflakes	I have a gay friend who's partner is one of those obviously gay males that fits about every stereotype in the book. Last election I get a distraught IM from my friend. It seems they never talked politics and my friend assumed that his partner shared his political viewpoints. Well it turned out his partner was a Republican, and always had been. Now my friend knew I voted republican and that was fine with him, we had some interesting debates and being he was intellectually honest in his viewpoints it was nice having discussions where we could look at issues and not debate facts and twist meanings like is so common as of late, and we had some great debates. He could be my friend even though we had different political view points but he was just shocked about his partner. Now my friend worked for a few democrat senators in D.C., and his partner knew his politics, so there wasn't a shock in that direction. When my friend asked his partner why he never told him, his partner said it was because he didn't want to upset him and it really wasn't something he felt was that important to their relationship in the long run, nothing done on the national/international scale was likely to really effect their relationship together. I think the message is that you can have overriding reasons for the choices you make, even if it seems to go against your self interest. I am always amused every election when people say 'you need to vote for this party because they will give you more money' (thats not quite what they say, but its what it boils down to) not realizing that once everyone votes only with their wallet and not by what they think is best for the country, we are finished. So maybe you are a homosexual and sure you wish the republicans were more 'gay friendly' on things like gay marriage, but if to you this seems like a small and unimportant issue beyond national security or whatever, why stand up for what you see as less important if it means sacrificing what you see as more important? Now for those interested their relationship survived, but I haven't talked with him in about a year and a half, shame because I'm not sure how to get in touch with him now. __________________ Agents of the enemies who hold office in our own government, who attempt to eliminate our "freedoms" and our "right to know" are posting among us, I fear.....on this very forum. - host Obama - Know a Man by the friends he keeps.