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cowudders14 · 10-14-2006, 01:16 PM

My wife and I had a fair few sex problems at the start - we first had sex about 2.5 years into our marriage )(we were both virgins up to that point), after employing the help of a sex therapist. I'm not going to go into the reasons for it other than they were mostly psycological (sp?). We've got through them now, and are now having sex about once a week, sometimes twice.

Foreplay is good fun - I can get her quite high just by playing with her and/or using a vibrator etc. The problem comes when we get to the actual sex part, i.e. penetration etc. She quite simply doesn't enjoy it. At all. It's not that she particlarly doesn't enjoy it, it doesn't hurt her or anything (well, it takes her about 20 seconds to relax and let me in, but we're ok after that), but when I'm thrusting etc, she's just lying or sitting there, not doing much. She says she enjoys it but she hardly even smiles sometimes - I feel like I'm in one of those old movies where you see the bloke walk in, grind on the women who is just lying there and waitnig for him to finish, and then goes away again. She tries to re-assure me that it's ok, and that it will improve with time, which I'm sure it will, but I'm wondering if anyone could come up with some suggestions on what I could do to make it more enjoyable for her.

One other important point: She's never had an orgasm. She's got pretty high, but never quite there - she'll always throw me off and tell me to stop before she gets there. That also irritates me a bit - I'd love to get her to have a massive orgasm, and I think she'd love it too.

We talk pretty well about everything, so communication isn't a problem - the sex therapist sorted that out! Having to discuss sex at great detail with someone else too makes talking about sex with each other a doddle!

Any suggestions?

10-14-2006, 01:16 PM	#1 (permalink)
cowudders14 Bringer of good Moos... Location: Midlands, UK	How to make it more fun for her? My wife and I had a fair few sex problems at the start - we first had sex about 2.5 years into our marriage )(we were both virgins up to that point), after employing the help of a sex therapist. I'm not going to go into the reasons for it other than they were mostly psycological (sp?). We've got through them now, and are now having sex about once a week, sometimes twice. Foreplay is good fun - I can get her quite high just by playing with her and/or using a vibrator etc. The problem comes when we get to the actual sex part, i.e. penetration etc. She quite simply doesn't enjoy it. At all. It's not that she particlarly doesn't enjoy it, it doesn't hurt her or anything (well, it takes her about 20 seconds to relax and let me in, but we're ok after that), but when I'm thrusting etc, she's just lying or sitting there, not doing much. She says she enjoys it but she hardly even smiles sometimes - I feel like I'm in one of those old movies where you see the bloke walk in, grind on the women who is just lying there and waitnig for him to finish, and then goes away again. She tries to re-assure me that it's ok, and that it will improve with time, which I'm sure it will, but I'm wondering if anyone could come up with some suggestions on what I could do to make it more enjoyable for her. One other important point: She's never had an orgasm. She's got pretty high, but never quite there - she'll always throw me off and tell me to stop before she gets there. That also irritates me a bit - I'd love to get her to have a massive orgasm, and I think she'd love it too. We talk pretty well about everything, so communication isn't a problem - the sex therapist sorted that out! Having to discuss sex at great detail with someone else too makes talking about sex with each other a doddle! Any suggestions? __________________ Moo! I'm mooey!