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Jimellow · 08-01-2006, 09:11 PM

I am going to reply here and post an update, as I feel it is justified, given the fact that I've kept this thread updated throughout.

I ended up sending her a card on Monday, saying I can't make the party due to a prior engagement, and that I wished her luck in her post-graduate future.

Earlier tonight she texted me saying, "I got your card. Sorry you can't make it! We have to go for a ride some time after I get my new car!"

Of note.. I am big on going for drives, oten with a female friend. In a way it has become one of my trademarks, as I find it provides a great opportunity to talk and be open with one another, especially on a beautiful night. The two of us have gone for drives in the past, so her suggestion is fitting.

At this point, I am not really sure where we stand.. I've felt that my last two responses have had an aura of closure, and both times her response has nullified the attempts by suggesting doing something in the future..

I likely am being overly cynical, but I still have this faint undertone that I am ultimately being put on the shelf, and thus being denied closure. That may be a totally unjustified reaction on my part, but I find it too coincidental to have her showing interest only when closure and moving on is suggested, but never any time other than that.

Realistically, I don't think about her much anymore, and even the portion written previously is a result of this thread, and not really my genuine thoughts. It's more of a nagging feeling that occasionally makes me wonder exactly where we do stand, and whether I am totally misconstruing her responses and lack of communication.

Right now, I'm at a point where in the not too distant future, I intend to literally move on (and away) and while it's tempting to bring that up and tell her, it's also likely the means by which to start up further interest, communication, and also uncertainty.

As usual, there are options.. Namely, ignoring the text message, or responding, making plans for a drive, and going on one.

The obvious answer for anyone I know is the latter, but in this case, taking the second option could open up a can of worms, when I ultimately intend to tighten the lid on the can and instead put it away, maybe even hide it.

08-01-2006, 09:11 PM	#32 (permalink)
Jimellow Junkie	I am going to reply here and post an update, as I feel it is justified, given the fact that I've kept this thread updated throughout. I ended up sending her a card on Monday, saying I can't make the party due to a prior engagement, and that I wished her luck in her post-graduate future. Earlier tonight she texted me saying, "I got your card. Sorry you can't make it! We have to go for a ride some time after I get my new car!" Of note.. I am big on going for drives, oten with a female friend. In a way it has become one of my trademarks, as I find it provides a great opportunity to talk and be open with one another, especially on a beautiful night. The two of us have gone for drives in the past, so her suggestion is fitting. At this point, I am not really sure where we stand.. I've felt that my last two responses have had an aura of closure, and both times her response has nullified the attempts by suggesting doing something in the future.. I likely am being overly cynical, but I still have this faint undertone that I am ultimately being put on the shelf, and thus being denied closure. That may be a totally unjustified reaction on my part, but I find it too coincidental to have her showing interest only when closure and moving on is suggested, but never any time other than that. Realistically, I don't think about her much anymore, and even the portion written previously is a result of this thread, and not really my genuine thoughts. It's more of a nagging feeling that occasionally makes me wonder exactly where we do stand, and whether I am totally misconstruing her responses and lack of communication. Right now, I'm at a point where in the not too distant future, I intend to literally move on (and away) and while it's tempting to bring that up and tell her, it's also likely the means by which to start up further interest, communication, and also uncertainty. As usual, there are options.. Namely, ignoring the text message, or responding, making plans for a drive, and going on one. The obvious answer for anyone I know is the latter, but in this case, taking the second option could open up a can of worms, when I ultimately intend to tighten the lid on the can and instead put it away, maybe even hide it. __________________ Desperation is no excuse for lowering one's standards.