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Originally Posted by Smooth23
So I've been going with this girlfriend for about a month now. Everthings great, lover her to death and I get that in return.
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I'd stick with this thoight before making any conclusions about anything. You love her to death and she loves you to death, too. You're a lucky man. Enjoy it.
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Originally Posted by Smooth23
I've got one thing that is kind of irking me though. I work a crazy schedule, and so does she, so we don't get to see each other very much, especially during the week. I was out of state all last week, and since I've got back I've seen her for a grand total of 1 hour. We figured out we would be able to have another few hours together one day before I had to work, and she then ended up making plans to go to a movie with 3 friends from one of her jobs. 2 guys and 1 girl as it happened. It kind of pissed me off that she would make plans to see a movie(that she's already seen) with people from work that she gets to see every day, then when I found out one of the guys was paying for her(apparantly as repayment of a debt) I just about lost it.
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What do you mean when you say "I just about lost it"? Was there a fight? Was there yelling? What was said?
One thing should be pointed out right away: I'll bet you have friends who are girls! Yes, it's possible to have friendships with members of the opposite sex (or the same sex, depending on orientation) that are stricktly friendships...no romance involved. As is oft mentioned in Tilted Sexuality, trust is paramount in a relationship. My wife has tons of friends who are men, and I trust her. Likewise she trusts me. Did that trust develope instantly? Nope, but by the time we were dating we knew that trusting one another was more important than jelousy.
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Originally Posted by Smooth23
It gets better though, whether she realizes it or not, the guy that paid for her is trying to get into her pants using the tried and true line of "I'm having girlfriend problems and thinking of leaving her".
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Ah, this is surprisingly simple. Your girlfriend has to make a decision: be 100% loyal to you and brush off this guy, flirt with this guy a bit, but stay with you, or leave you and get with this guy. Which do you think she'll choose? If your answer is #1, then you trust her, and I've enjoyed the thread. If not, then maybe you should open up a peaceful, respectful dialogue with her about your insecurity and her trustworthieness (sp?).
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Originally Posted by Smooth23
Enough of my long little rant, now I just need some advice. How do I get her to A. Stop hanging out with this one guy outside of work(selfish? yes, Neccessary? yes.) B. Realize that I've been adjusting my schedule with her all along, so she needs to do the same? Preferably all without seeming like an asshole.
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A) Civil communication between adults
B) Civil communication between adults
Assholes are as such because they choose to act in a way that is inconsiderate, rude, and/or selfish. This has to be about both of you. I'd start with the thought:
I just want her to be happy, or something like that. If you like her, then you probably want what's best for her.