Quote:
|
Originally Posted by ratbastid
If it really doesn't matter, then... why does it matter?
Face it: you have a preference. If you're honest with yourself about that, you can be responsible for it and honest about it when you talk with her and it'll all be okay. If you're not honest with yourself about that, you'll try to hide it or lie about it, and end up being a sneaky, manipulative weasel in the conversation, and put exactly the pressure on her that you don't want to put on her.
|
I don't necessarily agree with this.
If my wife was a regular swallower, then started spitting, I would wonder if my taste had changed; if she felt she WAS being pressured for either oral sex, swallowing, or both; etc. Something changed the dynamic, and I would want to find out what that was, and if I was the cause. If it was something that she was supposedly enjoying at one point, it would also be a responsibility of mine to see why things changed.
Wouldn't all of you want someone to share with you that they stopped carpooling with you because of your body odor?
Bottom line is, ask. Sex isn't something to hide, especially with your partner. Be honest about your concern, and if her willingness has changed, absolutely do NOT pressure her! hell, anyone getting regular oral has it waaaaay better than I do (one of the things I don't pressure my wife about - lol).
Good luck!