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sillygirl · 07-02-2006, 01:49 PM

If you've had them for two weeks and seen all this, I wouldn't necessarily wait. If it's been just within the last 14 days, I doubt that specific dates and times would be as important as you'd think. I also bet that if you sat and really thought hard about it you'd at least be able to remember what day it was you had the conversation about changing formulas, etc.

I know that while I was working in a group home, CPS in my state had some cases come through that seemed totally idiotic to me, where some cases the child NEEDED to be with us, and ended up being returned to mom and dad. I learned it had a lot to do with the caseworkers and their decisions.

If nothing is done when you report the case and the children stay with mom, continue documenting and make a report again. I know it's frustrating, and unfortunately at times it seems worthless and like you're banging your head against a wall, but think of it this way: If something were to happen to one of these kids and you hadn't made a report, you would be held partially responsible (not responsible, per se, but I'm having trouble finding the right word). This way, not only are you showing your concern about these children, but you are also covering your own ass, which is just as important. If something were to happen and anyone were to come down on you, you stand a risk of losing your own child. Also, if anything were to happen with these kids, there would be a record of the abuse/neglect already filed. See if there's a way to file a report in writing, not just over the phone if you don't trust the system that is in place.

07-02-2006, 01:49 PM	#12 (permalink)
sillygirl Newlywed Location: at home	If you've had them for two weeks and seen all this, I wouldn't necessarily wait. If it's been just within the last 14 days, I doubt that specific dates and times would be as important as you'd think. I also bet that if you sat and really thought hard about it you'd at least be able to remember what day it was you had the conversation about changing formulas, etc. I know that while I was working in a group home, CPS in my state had some cases come through that seemed totally idiotic to me, where some cases the child NEEDED to be with us, and ended up being returned to mom and dad. I learned it had a lot to do with the caseworkers and their decisions. If nothing is done when you report the case and the children stay with mom, continue documenting and make a report again. I know it's frustrating, and unfortunately at times it seems worthless and like you're banging your head against a wall, but think of it this way: If something were to happen to one of these kids and you hadn't made a report, you would be held partially responsible (not responsible, per se, but I'm having trouble finding the right word). This way, not only are you showing your concern about these children, but you are also covering your own ass, which is just as important. If something were to happen and anyone were to come down on you, you stand a risk of losing your own child. Also, if anything were to happen with these kids, there would be a record of the abuse/neglect already filed. See if there's a way to file a report in writing, not just over the phone if you don't trust the system that is in place. __________________ Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly-Rose Franken ....absence makes me miss him more...