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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq
It still boils down to communication with your friend and the girl. That's it, black and white, plain and simple.
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You're right. I don't have a problem with the how or what when it comes to the communication. For me it boils down to I need to decide wether or not I even should. It is one of those cases where I don't feel like losing her as a friend just to risk having a relationship. I can move on if I have to. I'm not going to put my life on hold for this, but I still think she is worth chasing but not at the cost of our friendship. Which is why what I really want to see from you guys is past personal experiences where you told someone in a similar situation and how it worked out for you. Or if you've been told by someone and how you reacted. The latter would probably be more valuable for me because my main concern is how she feels about my buddy.
No offense to anyone offering advice, because I will still gladly read and process it. But if you haven't been in a similar situation, then your advice, while much appreciated and still asked for, is only circumstantial.
So maybe I'm asking the wrong question and should ask another one here:
Ladies -- Let's say you were very attracted to someone and wanted to pursue a relationship with that person and knew it wouldn't work. Then you found out one of your guy friends (to both you and the person you were attracted to) was attracted to you in much the same way. How you would react? How have you reacted if it happened to you?