little_tippler

So have I. Maybe not for 5 years but I know what she is talking about, the anxiety, the emotions out of control. I agree the relationship may be precious in terms of them connecting very well on a mental level, but none of us knows how well and in what context exactly, and 4 years is a long time to spend without seeing your boyfriend AT ALL. Or did you not see yours for that long? Maybe you can give us some insight on how that works out.

Nobody is being an extremist I think. And that's a pretty harsh word to use among friends. I think the majority of posters here on the TFP actually give well balanced, well thought out opinions which are much valued by many who come here to share their problems.

The OP asked us her opinion and factored in the information about her boyfriend being long distance and not having seen him for 4 years. How could we not be surprised and respond with that in mind? It's not a common occurence. The OP asked us what we thought about the whole picture, not just about the isolated situation with her coworker. Do you really think she just threw that information in there or could it be that maybe she wanted to share this difficult situation she's in with others and hear what they have to say about it?

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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.

Fernando Pessoa, 1918