CityOfAngels

I am 21 years old. Before I started sleeping with the woman I am currently sleeping with, I went a year without sex. I have always been a great performer in bed, and have had no problems with keeping myself aroused. I can recall only two times before recently when I had a problem; 1) When I was woke up at 4:00 AM and was too tired to even stay awake, much less be aroused and ready for sex, and 2) When I slept with a woman other than the one I was in love with at the time, I was still aroused and erect, but not 'as' erect as I usually am. Both situations occurred years ago.

I started sleeping with a woman a few weekends ago. The first time, I was erect, but to our dismay, I couldn't keep it up. I was embarassed as all hell then, as I was fully awake and wanted to have sex. I was able to satisfy her without it, but it still bothered me. We were outside and it was freezing, and it was the first time it ever happened to me, so I attributed it to the cold.

The second time I slept with her, it was great. I stayed erect the whole time, and we both had a blast. Tonight comes along, and it happens again. I was erect when we started with the kissing and foreplay, but I couldn't keep it up when it came time to penetrate her. Having to deal with this embarassment a second time left me in a sort of shock. I'm 21 years old; why would this be happening to me?

In the first circumstance, I was under the influence of alcohol and green stuff. The second time it happened, I was only under the influence of green stuff; no alcohol. But my successful night with her also involved both substances. Neither of us were fully drunk; we only had a beer or two, but we were definitely under the influence. I can only wonder what other variables I am dealing with here. Maybe my undiagnosed depression could be a part of it?

So I'm posting here to ask: Is it wise for me to seek council from a doctor? Or is it too soon to really worry about it? I really fear having the same thing happen again, but we are attracted to each other and I really want her to have a good time with me. How normal is this to happen to someone? I am not completely impotent; this only happened two times, both times I was erect at a certain point, and I am also able to masturbate when I feel the need to do so. I don't know what my problem is.

This is embarassing even bringing it up, but this isn't something I want to wait on. I want to nip this in the bud if at all possible.

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