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so I was just peeing and I thought of a great real life example that makes this more clear:
You're talking with your coworkers about a new business plan. It feels like about half of you are agreeing and half of you are disagreeing, and you've got about 10 minutes to choose one. You know that this coworker (who you've argued with before) will probably just keep disagreeing with you, no matter how hard you try. At this point you could try and convince him with logic, and consequently win him and the rest of those that agree with him over.
OR -- you could address another member of his "group" who seems more amiable to his position.
You: But... I think this model would be better for X reason.
Disagreeable: NO NO -- this is better.
You to a new person: I heard you say Y earlier, does it make sense why this way is better?
Mr. Disagreeable gets to sit there and listen, unless he wants to become the asshole himself. And in doing so, he just alienated those who agreed with him before.
It's much easier to just "I hear what you're saying, but I'm going to talk to someone who's a little more rational" in person just by shifting your body weight or listening to another person. On TFP? Just don't address them anymore. Or specifically preface your comments with a Name: to the person you ACTUALLY want to talk to.
Yea, it sounded good when I was peeing.. maybe not.
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