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Originally Posted by amire
The obvious answer, and the thing that I tell myself constantly, is that these people are NOT better than I am. They simply are better at projecting a self-confident image. Everyone has his skeletons in the closet, and these people must, as well. But this does not help to get the jealousy to go away. And the simple image these people project -- the illusion of having it all together -- still remains. I can't get it out of my mind that I'm not completely satisfied with where I am, what I'm doing, or what my talents are.
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This is quite common I think. Most of us at one point or another wish we could be more like someone else we have "admired". Jealousy is a strong word in my opinion. I sometimes feel that I wish I was more like this or that, but actual full on jealousy doesn't really get to me in this matter. Maybe for a fleeting moment - but it fades away really fast. I think nowadays since we're all expected to achieve/told we will achieve no matter what, it's natural to never feel content with what you have. Also, I think you're probably focusing too much on that and finding "better" elements in everyone around you and maybe exaggerating them to yourself. Just think that others have probably looked at you that way also.
I agree that sometimes when you have certain talents that are natural to you, you don't realize that not everyone else has them and can be surprised when someone points that out to you with a compliment. It's always nice to hear. I think it's also a self-esteem issue, where you may know at the back of your mind "ok yes I am good at X" but won't admit it to yourself or to others, for fear of goodness knows what but that could be material for a separate thread (!), though middle ground in that respect is not easy to attain. I think most people today are either overly confident or the opposite. I think it's probably preferable these days to be a little overconfident, as bullshit gets you almost everywhere.
