amire

Hey, everyone. I'm usually a lurker, but I thought that I'd come out of my shell and ask a question to the group as a whole. It concerns people who seem to be "better than you" in every possible way.

I know a few guys who just seem to be better people, all around, than I am. They are more active in the community than I am. They are just as smart as I, if not smarter. They seem to genuinely care about others and have a sense of duty about helping to improve the world. They make good grades (I'm a college kid), have attractive and kind girlfriends, and seem very self-confident. It just seems that they've got their lives completely together. I find myself very jealous of these people. I don't think that I could POSSIBLY attain their levels of sociality, humanity, kindness, or intelligence no matter how hard I tried. It just seems to be unreachable. So my question to the forum is this: how do you deal with the inferiority complex that comes with knowing people that you feel are "better than you" ?

The obvious answer, and the thing that I tell myself constantly, is that these people are NOT better than I am. They simply are better at projecting a self-confident image. Everyone has his skeletons in the closet, and these people must, as well. But this does not help to get the jealousy to go away. And the simple image these people project -- the illusion of having it all together -- still remains. I can't get it out of my mind that I'm not completely satisfied with where I am, what I'm doing, or what my talents are.

I'm sure many people experience this phenomenon, so I was wondering what you guys think about this. I'm sure we've got some interesting stories waiting to be told.

If this thread has already been made, PLEASE shut my post down and direct me to the previous discussion. But I didn't see anything like this when I searched.

Thanks!