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Hmm, you said you're in Malaysia. Is she ethnically Malaysian or Asian? Or is her large family very close and/or religious??
I'm not sure if I'm catching a whiff of low self-esteem as much as I'm catching a whiff of overwhelming cultural pressure. I could be totally off base, but this just reminds me a lot of why I didn't really date seriously (and only ever secretly) or do other things a lot of American teenagers do when I lived at home with my parents. The first time I ever cried about something that wasn't a physical injury, I was 14 and just had my first heartbreak. Ever since then, I would cry all the time in secret and avoid doing it around friends or people that I liked because I felt so strongly that my family was fucked up (because my parents were so strongly cultural as Asians and as Catholics) and that it wasn't anybody else's problem but mine.
If that's the case with your girlfriend, then just being there and reassuring her all the time won't really change anything. That kind of situation usually forces one into some kind of huge life-changing decisions that may or may not involve fundamental shifts in the way one sees the world.
Then again, I don't really know enough about your situation to make the assumption that this is even remotely the case. That's just my hunch.
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