retcop0470

Any help. My son, 10, and daughter, 12, are awesome. However, my daughter and my ex get along fantastically. My son and my ex, do not. Constant tears and fighting about toys, taking showers, sleeping on the floor, "mom is a liar" type things. I get a call a week with my son crying, and my ex upset. It has come to the point where I have finally told her, "I know you are having problems and I don't know what to do, but I live 30 miles away, and I cannot referee anymore. Be the 38 year old parent. We have had many a problem prior to this and she has said, "if my hand doesn't work then I will find something that does" "you need to be the parent" "I am moving because you have too much time with the kids" "why can't .....be like....." "why is it he leaves your house and he comes here and he is out of control" I have had enough. I cannot solve all the world's problems. But I am always wrong. I always back her, but cannot handle the constant upheaval. Any comments or help? I need to know some input on how to deal with her. Because right now she thinks she is God's gift, and anything the kids have done WELL AND GOOD, it's her fault......and anything (including anything that may occur BADLY in 20 years) will be something I have done. I am worried about the kids and whether they will love me in the end. Thanks