Dude, sorry that you are going through this, but.. you sound fairly young. If you didn't want to be married, why did you go through with it in the first place??? IMO, I think you need to do some self examination first, then start communicating better with your wife, period. If you can open up to us, you should be able to open up with her, you are married to her for pete's sake. Every marriage has an ebb and flow so just think about that. You say you're not religious and that's fine, but is she, I think I missed that? Once you open the communication door with her, suggest a marriage counselor, or therapist or something. If she knows how you truely feel, she can begin to accept this, and vice versa. Don't waste 10 or 15 years in a place you don't want to be, but you did say "till death do you part", that's a huge contract to fullfil. I hope you can accept her for what she is, and she you and work from their. Divorce is never pretty, no matter who you are, and I hope you can avoid it. Good luck, and remember you can vent and ask for advice, but if you ask, you better be aware of what you'll get.
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