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Originally Posted by Fob_Magi
well I have thought about this and followed this to all of its possibilites (not just this moment, but before)... and the strange thing about that is, the worst possible conclusion I can think of is that SHE ends up alone, without a mate, without children, without a job worthy of her education, without money. I've gone thru alot of shit in my life and I always seem to get by for the better... this is the one place I feel I might have seriously made a wrong turn at...
I have an uncle who is once divoriced 50 and single...
She has a aunt who is once divoriced 50 and single...
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I might just be biased, but my uncle seems much happier and much more well off than her aunt.. what if I ruin HER life?
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If you wait until your both 50 to divorce then yes you will have ruined her life. AT 50 she will most certainly be lonely[ which there is a good possibility she is lonely now] and without a mate or children. I dunno, maybe it's just me, but you seem to be one of the most self-absorbed people I've ever had the pleasure of reading one of their post on a message board. You have issues that go far beyond the marriage. It seems everything is about you and what you want with little consideration of the wants and needs of the person you chose [out of fear of being alone or in another word selfishness ] to spend the rest of your life with. No small wonder your both depressed and living in mental squalor. If you was any sort of a man you would try counseling for yourself first and marraige counseling second. Then if you still feel the way you do at the moment you would let the little lady go to find happiness while she is still young. It's bad enough to ruin your own life. Don't drag someone else down with you just because your scared of being alone.