Hey thanks everyone for the advice - I've gotten very good results lately... not sure which one did it though since I went through the multi thronged approach:
1. I relaxed and had fun. Once I let go a bit things started "working" again
2. I started working out again - the physical activity definitely was something I needed to feel like my old self again.
3. And I stepped up the communication. I thought that before we were pretty open, but now it's just awesome (and I do so enjoy the things she says
Thanks again guys and gals!