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Originally Posted by analog
How can one use the word love, without fully defining the characteristics that govern it's use? I think that using the word love, without fully encompasing at the very least the items mentioned above, is the fallacy.
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In concept, I agree with you. Far too many people throw love around without defining what it means. You seem to want to redefine "love" to mean the things you (or I) listed, but I don't think that's effective. You can't have a seperate dictionary definition for each person's expecations and call that love.
Unless you have this discussion with everyone who uses the word "love," its unlikely people who use it will ever stop to analyze what they expect it to mean. One word is FAR too brief to describe something so demanding and dynamic as a relationship. It needs to be much more clearly seperated, and relationship partners MUST know the expecations, explicitly. By saying "What are your expecations?" much more dialogue occurs than saying "Will you always love me?"
The very fact that your definition of love differs from mine, or hers, or theirs, stresses this point. Saying "I love you" means 100 different things to 100 different people. Expecations, however, are clear.