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Do you test potential boyfriends/girlfriends in some way?
I suppose on some level I'vs done this since I was maybe 16 or 17. Before that it was more about friendship + attraction, and not much more. Once I started to realize that certian traits meant compatability, I realize now that I did tend to seek out that type. I know to avoid people who use the word y'all (not that ther is anything at all wrong with people that use this word, I just tend not to be compatable with them for whatever reason). I know to avoid people that enjoy a certian type of music. I know to avoid people that have certian interests.
Is it with or without their knowledge?
If you're dating someone and you don't think they are judging you, you're in denial. It's a simple fact of pairing in a society that provides competition that you will be measured in at least some ways. It's reality.
Do you think it's wrong to do this, dishonest, or is it just a good way of finding out about someone without revealing too much about yourself?
If you do it consciously and make fun and become entitled and elitist, then it's wrong and you should consider the golden rule. If you do it simply for the benifit for both parties, then I see nothing wrong with it. Always do what you think is right, and show people the respect they deserve.
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