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Don't give up so easily; is it your business? Well, if you think your bro is doing something sleazy, in good conscience you should tell him so. He's your bro, and you care. And if he disagrees, he can tell you right back. That's how healthy families work: they're messy and somewhat contentious. And that's what you did. Who's right in these situations? There's no hard and fast rule. We just all try to tell other family members that their actions worry us, with the best intentions. And we know when to back off, but that doesn't mean we don't say anything at all.
"It's his business" can be a slippery slope. Is it his business if he starts loaning all his money to some girl he's having sex with? Starts smoking too much dope because she encourages him? You can't stop him from doing anything. But by telling what you think, you are at least a counterpoint to the person who's trying to encourage him to do things that are questionable. And sometimes people need to hear that, even if they don't want to; helps them remember there are two sides to the question, especially if side 1 is trying to blot out all other arguments by spreading her legs persuasively.
Anything potentially bad that involves somebody you care about is your business, at least enough to tell them so, and why you think they could be in trouble.
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