I've always believed in this carnal rule that one should not date anyone close to them has dated previously. It makes for very uncomfortable situations, even if you may be over that person. It's a tad disrespectful for your buddy to go ahead and date her and hang out with her in your guys' place. It's tactless and inconsiderate, but it seems he's very aware of that. Maybe some of it is done with spiteful intent on his behalf. Have you and him always been cool with each other before all of this? At worst, he might be using her just to get under your skin. Or he might just be desperate for some ass..
It seems you're over her, but there's a nagging feeling inside of me that says she isn't quite over what you guys had. Who knows, maybe she wanted something more but her inability to follow through with what she had planned may have embarrassed her badly enough to let it go, but going out with your buddy, well it allows her to be in your life somehow. Maybe she wants to secure an opportunity for you to see her when she does lose the weight and her say 'look at me now, and you can't have me anymore'.
Then again, maybe they do genuinely like each other. You should talk to your buddy to ask how serious he is about her, and if she is nothing more than fling to him, he should get ass elsewhere.
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