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Originally Posted by maleficent
Rape is non-consensual sex. Period.
You were drunk, you were not in a condition to give consent.
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Mal, I have a question for you (sorry if this is a threadjack):
If I was drunk to the point of blackout (which apparently is a state where you make decisions, but just can't remember them), but I gave consent to having sex (in a situation where I would never have given consent if I was sober), is that rape?
At the time I didn't think so, since I saw it as my responsibility whether or not I got drunk, and also my responsibility to choose who I was hanging around with. I do remember giving consent as I sobered up. And afterwards, the guy (a total stranger) and I were in e-mail communication about the whole thing, trying to piece together what happened since he had also been drinking.
If it was rape, don't you think he would have been more defensive, not wanting to give any information about himself or his memory of the event? That was my logic, anyway. I mean, I have the whole thing recorded in written e-mails, which would be evidence for a court. I think the guy would not have written those things if he felt he could be accused of something.
Hope this relates somehow to the OP... at least for you to know that other people have been there.