Well now that you cleared that up for me OshnSoul, I'll chime in.
I think your statement is wrong on several levels. However as you continue with your post, it seems that you actually practice one thing and say another.
First off all yes there are a certain needs that all members of the same sex share. However, personal, religious and cultural values shape and change a persons needs; thus generalizations are very dangerous. Generalizations create two oportunities for a mistake. First you guess about the need, second you guess about the value that need holds for a person.
Sexuality for example can have an imence amount of variables when it comes to personal meaning.
The only way to discover what any one individual really wants is to ask. But it goes deeper then that! Not only do you have ask but you must analize the responce. I talked about this in the communication thread where people will give you values that are means to an end.
For example some women say they wan't "romance", most men wonder just what the fuck that actually means. I find that most of the time "romance" means they wan't to be seduced, once I know this end value I can easilly fulfil her desire. Where if I wen't with trying to fulfil the need for "romance" I would be shooting in the dark.
Last edited by Mantus; 11-19-2005 at 10:13 PM..
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