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Originally Posted by cheerycheeks
He is a nice guy, a good guy, that is not trying to hurt me.
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Hon, I've been there, and it sucks. You don't deserve this situation, and he doesn't deserve you. Nice and good guys can hurt you even worse than "bad boys" can, because they do it with a big smile and the best intentions.. but they are STILL hurting you. Isn't he hurting you now? That's not cool. He's not mature enough to consider the consequences of his behavior on your emotional state.
The right guy, a TRULY nice and good guy, would do all that he could to avoid hurting you in any way. He would give you a hell of a lot more credit and priority than your bf is giving you.. he would stop and try to help you feel more secure and prioritized.
Your bf's intimacy with this other girl (emotional intimacy is JUST as bad as physical cheating) is very big evidence of his lack of commitment to you. The fact that he would choose her over you says everything. Don't put up with this.. stand up for yourself and kick him to the curb, for good.
Btw, there is a thread in Tilted Living written from a guy's perspective on all this (he sounds a lot like your bf).. you might want to check it out. I think it's titled "Is this cheating" or something.