Breaking up because of love?
My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday. To sum up the situation, I am a 20 y.o. French guy in Japan. I have been here since August, and will be here until mid December. I have been with my girlfriend, who is japanese and 29, for two month. I have clearly stated that when I go back to France, it will not be possible to continue the relationship, mostly because of the distance, but also because I believe she will and should be searching for husband material at that time (these matters are very important in Japan - there is common belief that all girls should be married before 25, and you have no idea how social pressure is strong there).
I wasn't that much into her at first. I found her cute, interesting and funny, and that's why I wanted to go out with her. But little by little I really liked her more and more. I must add that she is my first girlfriend...
Anyways, yesterday, out of the blue she tells me that she wants to break up with me because recently she realized that she liked me, and she fears that if we go on together, she will like me more, and it will hurt her more when I go back to France. That's why she's breaking up now.
Needless to say I am speechless, and that I almost cried when she said, "I'm afraid that I will love you more if we stay together". I don't know what to do, what to think... I am in a total state of apathy.
What should I do?
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