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Originally Posted by sailor
I didn’t fly off the handle. I thanked her for telling me straight-up before I found out from someone else, and told her I needed some time to think and clear my head, and that I would get in touch when I had something more to say.
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That's one of the most mature things I've read in Sexuality. Seriously. Very well done. That response shows a great deal of maturity.
Now let's break this down. She used to be a bit permiscuous, but she has changed a great deal since meeting you. You both care for each other deeply, shown by your being committed to each other and by her sickly response to what she did.
It seems to me that she is remorseful which tells me that you have an opportunity to nip this problem early. People who give up a more active and 'free-spirited' sexual lifestyle often face a kind of temptation to return that neither you nor I can ever understand (assuming that you did not live like this before). Because of that you must make clear that you love her and understand, but want this to NEVER happen again. I would suggest laying off alcohol in public places for a few months, even after you're back, to make sure this won't develope into alcoholism or a sex addiction associated with alcohol.
Again, I applaud your maturity and wish you the best. Auf Wiedersehen.