nightstuff

Why this approach doesnt work is that it CAN easily lead to boredom for your girl, and to the relationships ultimate demise. Where is the logic in this thinking you ask? Allow me to offer an analogy:

Lets say that your mutual goal for the day is to experience an exciting car ride. Using an approach based on the "common advice", you then focus all your efforts on her comfort and desire, wanting to make sure SHE has the most enjoyment. You therfore make sure her seat is extra comfy, maybe with heating and extra padding. You play her favorite music and avoid going too fast over the bumps, cause she hates that. You even let her decide where to go and when to take pit stops.

Finally everthing is just how it should be for her, and so mid-way down the road you look over to guage her enjoyment and what do you see? She's asleep, indulging in the comfort of it all. Whats the man to think?

"I did everthing to satisfy her, yet she only fell asleep. What an ungrateful bitch"
"Well, sleeping is a good thing...after all she deserves that, right?"
"Next time i'll drive like a maniac, that will show her"

But who's fault is this really? YOURS, because you forgot that the whole reason for the drive was not her comfort, but to experience an exciting car rid.

Don't focus all your energy on wining, dining, and treating your girl well. Focus it on having a good time...don't forget that the point isnt to make things as good for her as possible, but to have fun. Else you only have yourself to blame when you look over and she's asleep.