Siege

I couldn't find anything within the last 2 months that answered this, and none of the words were accepted by the search, so I hope i'm not repeating anything.

Anyway, as stupid as this sounds, I have a hard time saying no in many different situations. I'd say i'm a nice guy *cough*spineless*cough*. But I think that's the problem. I'll give a few examples.

1) I used to teach English. I was payed a certain amount for a certain amount of classes. When the classes ended, I assumed that I wouldn't have to teach this person again. But the problem is, I see this person fairly often, and since they still lack practice, they sometimes can't say some words without my help. This means that often they will come up to me and ask me for help. I really don't mind this once in a while, but it's gotten to the point where I feel that i'm helping them too much. And perhaps it's because i'm spineless, but I lack the ability to say "look, you payed me for those lessons, and now you're practically getting them for free. If you want more help, you might as well keep taking lessons either from me or someone else."

2) I also happen to teach a sport. As an employee of that establishment, I am allowed to play there as a regular member whenever I wish. The problem is when people come up to me asking for help on technique/strategy. Again, I don't mind this once in a while. But an extreme example was when a member insisted I play with him almost every time last saturday. Again, I lack the ability to say "If you really need this much help, why don't you just take some lessons?" The only way I get out of these types of situations is when I claim i'm "taking a break for a few rounds" and then wait til said person is playing so I can get on the next rotation.

I think the underlying problem is that I don't like saying no to people if it's in my power to do something, I really feel like a complete asshole when charities ask me for money and I say "no," (most of the time, I give them something) even though I regularly donate to charities without them coming up to me.

Any suggestions?

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