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never done personals before--so take the following with a grain of salt!
i consider myself a polite person for the most part. i think i have good manners and try to be considerate of others. however, as a woman, my instinct when approached online by a guy that i have no interest in, is to ignore it. if he's sending me emails, private messages, instant messages, whatever and i'm not into him, i would ignore him.
that may seem rude on the surface, but if you have ever had someone that wouldn't take no for an answer, you might feel that way too.
when i was married, i had a guy from a forum i visited often start sending me messages constantly. i told him i was married, not interested but thanks all the same. for whatever reason, he took this to mean he should be more aggressive. he hounded me to the point i changed emails and quit visiting that forum--but for months after that he would constantly send messages to friends and family (who also visited that forum) trying to get in touch with me. i later found out from others that he had done that before (and since). he fixated on the fact that a woman was responding to him and completely ignored what she was saying. the women who ignored his initial advance, he never bothered.
i realize you aren't contacting women out of the blue--personals are designed for the type of contact you are initiating. however, i would guess the chances of running into guys like the one i knew, are significantly higher when you put your profile on a dating site. a run in or two with someone like that, it's easier to just ignore people you aren't interested in and circumvent the potential hassles of a cyber-stalker.
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