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Originally Posted by greeneyes
You just described my last relationship. I'm still dealing with feeling like I am unattractive and undesired... and it's been months and I am marrying a wonderful man who does everything to make me feel completely loved, desired, and attractive.
It isn't so much about not getting sex as it is feeling as if you have no self-worth.
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OK, am I the only dumb blonde who actually believes you "get it all the time when you are married" or what?
Ive been married to (IMO) a very sexy man who, sadly, seems to have misplaced his MOJO (LOL, always wanted to use that word). He proclaims love and interest...but, but, well...there is no but. NOTHING! Agreed, a few kisses and touches are nice but I want a bit more ( a LOT more really). Starting to feel that undesired/aggitated feeling regularly now. As mentioned above, he doesnt seem to want to chat about it (doesnt perform well under pressure either) but doesnt ACT on it either. Humph, what to do?
Stimulate his interest you say? Im not really interested in looking at porn...guess I am a bit shy/insecure that way.
Initiate you say? I typically do... wouldnt it be nice if he would TOO?
Focus on other aspects of your marriage you say? Gettin hard to when I fracking WANT him...the topic seems stuck in my mind...lol.
Tease him into compliance you say? Hmmmm, you mean do MORE than wear my best nighties after my evening shower/perfume/shave/even make up routine?
My question is this: We are healthy, youngish (both about 40) and not hard to look at so...whats up? This isnt the first time this cloud has hung over a relationship with me. Is it just ME!!! I understand the honeymoon is over but perhaps we fell over the edge.
Suggestions?