Respect is something that needs to be installed from early childhood... even back to infancy. If you treat the child with respect they will learn respect. As they grow they will push boundaries and need to learn where those boundaries are. Again, if you show the child respectfully you won't have too many dramas.
There was one time my daughter gave me some serious 'attitude' ... I grabbed her by the throat and slammed her against the wall, punched the wall beside her head and bellowed (in a low tone, not that fish-wife thing) that I would not tolerate that sort of treatment. She shat herself! (She was never in danger of being hurt... I was after the 'shock' factor...) That was two years ago, I have not had that problem again.
She did however bring up that she could report me for child abuse... I just told her to look over her whole existance with me, and if she wished to live with someone else she would be quite welcome to report me. She decided against it
I have no idea what you can do with a child that has come so far as in the recording... the only chance would be for the whole family to attend counselling and change the whole dynamic in the household... what would be the chances of that happening, and how often would that happen this far down the track (the boy is 12, my daughters age)... *sigh* It's so sad and very scarey...